Hi everyone,

I hope you enjoy the site. I know I will be labeled a "homosexual activist" the second this site hits the net. I understand how things work. The hate is strong. A very powerful tool that is used to focus the power of hate is the "label". There will be many people against me and what I have to say. To discredit me and take the power out of my words they will give me a "label." A name that carries with it terrible connotations. After 40 years of living on this crazy planet I have learned one thing that is as reliable as day turning to night. That is, that I can not control what other people will do.

I can only tell you that I can not be "labeled." Sorry James, and Karl, but I'm more than an "activist." You can't put me in a box. I have had many, many, many life experiences that have formed who I am, so don't bother putting me in your small little "box." I am an American, just like you, and I don't deserve a different set of rights. Before "Dubya" was in office, I never paid attention to politics. I was just like the other 85% of America that has no idea who their state representative is. I had no idea who the supreme court justices were. Besides my governor, the president, and vice president, I could not name anyone in government. I didn't care. I had a life to live.

I was busy going to graduate school getting a masters degree. Who had time to read the paper? I do remember my jaw dropping however, when "Dubya" won in 2000. I remember thinking and saying out loud "oh no". But that was about it. A week went by and I went on with my life. We assume that whoever is in office can't do that much damage so we forget about it and go on with our life until the next election.

Then came 9/11. I, along with the entire country, was stunned. I remember being numb that whole day. I was asleep and my roommate came running into my bedroom. She was hysterical. She was so upset. "Denise, Denise, get up there is something terribly wrong." I got up and we watched the news. The first plane had hit the first tower. We, like everyone else, were trying to make sense of it. Did a plane crash? Was it a bomb? Then about 5 minutes later we watched as the second plane hit the second tower. That is when I went numb.

My brother lives in New York City not far from there. He was on his way to work and saw the plane come in over his head. Right away he knew it was flying way to low. I was scared, for several days, that my brother may have been killed. No one could get a hold of him. All the phone lines, including cell phones, were not operating in New York for days. We finally heard from him, and breathed a sigh of relief. I would have been devastated if anything happened to him.

So, James Dobson, and anyone else who throws the phrase "FAMILY VALUES" around, just remember that gays have family too. To make the impression that a particular party or a orientation cares more about family and values is absurd. One thing is very clear. Discrimination is not a "family value". Acceptance of ALL God's children is.

September 11, 2001. That day changed everything. We were all shaken out of our American coma. We have no idea how the rest of the world lives. We get caught up in the "routine of life." Work or school. TV at night. Play on the weekends. We forget that we are spinning around, at very high speeds, on a planet in the middle of a universe that never ends. We forget that on this very same planet are billions of other people also just trying to get by. 90-95% have the bare minimum to survive. Maybe a roof to keep off rain. Maybe a few items of clothing to keep warm. Maybe some rice each day to ward off the hunger pains.

With our crazy busy American lives it is easy to forget that. So much distraction. Cell phones, TVs in every room, stereos, Ipods, laptops, work, family, friends. So when 911 happened, just like a stinging slap in the face it reminded me that there was a much bigger picture out there than my safe little world. It was after that day that I started to pay attention.

I started reading the paper. I've gotta tell you, the daily paper is a wonderful thing. In our society, we are so lucky to have a free press. Most governments do not want you to know what is going on. If the citizens know what is going on then it is hard for the greedy rich guys at the top to get even richer. Most governments will try to control their press. The press is how the citizens get information. If it is a free press, then independent (not government controlled) newspapers can research what is going on and report it without fear of being silenced.

The funny thing? We, as Americans, have this system and don't even use it. Very few people read the paper on a regular basis. You really should. I learned a lot. I started to pay attention and you can only imagine what I started to see. I tuned in just as George "W" was rollin up his sleeves. I tuned in and have watched him ride the wave of 911 for almost 5 years. That wave has finally petered out and "W" and his party have nothing left.

I had seen what they had done to exploit 911. I could only imagine what they would do to exploit gay Americans. I am a firm believer in keeping your friends close but your enemies closer so I "Googled" homosexual, gay, gay marriage, gay adoption, gay rights, anti-gay.

32,589,309 hits later it all began. Under my "anti-gay" search the same three names kept coming up.

Out of all of my research these are really the only 3 men that keep coming up over, and over, and over. There really aren't that many people in this country who are really hateful to gays. All the damage comes from just a few men.

The problem is that it only takes a few men. James Dobson gets phone calls from Karl Rove.

If you are reading this, and you don't know who Karl Rove is than stop here and go to your kitchen. Go to where you keep the coffee. Now go wake up and smell it.

Go "google" Karl Rove before you come back. Here I will make it easy for you.

This man will do anything to win elections. He plays on people's emotions and fears to get them to vote. There are no rules in getting elected just getting elected. This man will do ANYTHING to get his party elected.

Don't like how the districts are mapped out for the voting blocks? Change them to benefit your candidate.

Have a national tragedy happen? Start a war with a country that had nothing to do with it. Kill 2 birds with one stone. You and your buddies get rich and have a nation at wartime that will support anything the president wants to do.

Polls show your candidate is approved by only 29% of America? Midterm elections coming up? Target a minority of citizens, that are different, for exclusion.

This last one is a cake walk. There is already so much misunderstanding and hate surrounding the group. They are actually "acting up" right now and daring to want to get "married". All we have to do is feed the hate and let it grow. Divide and conquer. Create an enemy to vote against. Everyone keeps saying Karl Rove is brilliant. He isn't brilliant. This concept has been used since the beginning of time. He was just the first political strategist to sink that low. To use citizens for political gain. Knowing hate crimes would increase. It doesn't get much lower than that.

So that is why I decided to get involved. That is why I pay attention. The 2008 presidential election will be right around the corner. The Republican party has exploited terrorism and 911 for all it is worth. They have now turned all of their attention to being anti-gay rights disguised as "saving marriage." The only way they can justify denying equal rights is to make the gay Americans seem like they don't deserve equality. I have been on the websites. I will give you all the links.

What is going on behind the scenes is disgusting. These people have no shame. James Dobson is the worst. Here is a letter he sent to my home because I put my name on the mailing list of his organization Focus on the Family. This letter is what caused me to put my life on hold, for three years, to create this website. Over and over, he purposely uses the term "homosexual" instead of "gay" because he knows that it has a worse connotation. It is such an outdated term. How often do we hear the term "negro" in the year 2007? It is the caveman refusing to evolve. The average American will be horrified at what is said in this letter. It sounds like Adolf Hitler talking about the Jews. It is called "scapegoating" and it has no place in America. Read it for yourself:

April 2004

Dear Friends,

I write to you today with a profound sense of concern and apprehension for the welfare of the family, and indeed, for the future of our nation. I do not recall a time since the beginnings of Focus on the Family, 27 years ago, when the institution of marriage faced such peril, or when the forces arrayed against it were more formidable or determined. Barring a miracle, the family as it has been known for more than five millennia will crumble, presaging the fall of Western civilization itself. This is a time for concerted prayer, divine wisdom and greater courage than we have ever been called upon to exercise.

For more than 40 years, the homosexual activist movement has sought to implement a master plan that has had as its centerpiece the utter destruction of the family.

The institution of marriage, along with an often weakened and impotent Church, is all that stands in the way of its achievement of every coveted aspiration. Those goals include universal acceptance of the gay lifestyle, discrediting of Scriptures that condemn homosexuality, muzzling of the clergy and Christian media, granting of special privileges and rights in the law, overturning laws prohibiting pedophilia, indoctrinating children and future generations through public education, and securing all the legal benefits of marriage for any two or more people who claim to have homosexual tendencies.

These objectives that seemed unthinkable just a few years ago have largely been achieved or are now within reach. All that remains is for the movement and its friends in the media, the entertainment industry, the professions, the government and the military, to deliver the coup de grace to a beleaguered institution that was given to humanity by the Creator in the Garden of Eden. We in North America and Europe are not simply "slouching towards Gomorrah," as Judge Robert Bork warned in his best-selling book(1); we are hurtling toward it.

To cite another metaphor, the old earthen dam that has held and protected the reservoir of Judeo-Christian values and beliefs since the days of our Founding Fathers has been leaking for decades. Even the most casual observer has witnessed greater structural damage each passing year. But in recent weeks, the entire superstructure appears to have given away. What thousands of homosexuals in San Francisco have achieved represents the collapse of the rule of law, with no legal or governmental official being willing or able to stop it or provide more than a temporary stay. A revolution of striking proportions now looms before us

This is distressing for many reasons, including the historical perspective of Focus on the family. We have fought for "the preservation of the home" since I left academia in 1977. That phrase appeared at the bottom of the first printed stationery, which summarized what we were attempting to do. We've been frantically waving a red flag ever since, warning our listeners and readers that the family was in mortal danger. Aided and abetted by arrogant, unaccountable and unelected judges who are determined to implement their vision of political correctness, thousands of unlawfully "married" gays and lesbians are fanning out across the nation, preparing civil rights suits and demanding recognition by the courts. Given the outrageous decision in Lawrence v. Texas (the so-called "sodomy case") and the disturbing rationale for it written by one of the most dangerous men in America, Justice Anthony Kennedy (2), there can be little doubt that the U.S. Supreme Court will soon "find" a provision in the Constitution that guarantees homosexual marriage. If the people accept that decision passively, the issue will never be in question again. The institution of the family will have been destroyed.

Well, so what? How would sanctioning marriage between homosexuals be harmful to society? Why shouldn't the family, which they see as outmoded and irrelevant, be broadened and modernized? What harm could possibly be done by yielding to the demands of gays and lesbians? These are among the questions being frequently by the secular media, which is almost always biased in its responses. Columnist Steve Blow, for example, recently published an op-ed piece in the Dallas Morning News that addressed the question, "Gay Marriage: Why Would It Affect Me?" Blow said he had one of my recent letters on this subject and disagreed emphatically with my perspective. He wrote:

".when opponents talk about the 'defense of marriage,' they lose me. James Dobson's Focus on the Family just sent out a mailer to 2.5 million homes saying: 'The homosexual activists' movement is poised to administer a devastating and potentially fatal blow to the traditional family.' And I say, "Huh? How does anyone's pledge of love and commitment turn into a fatal blow to families?"(3)

I will try to help Mr. Blow understand our concern, although I doubt if he really wants to "get it." He seems committed to "political correctness," along with others who hide in places where logic and facts cannot penetrate. Nevertheless, I'll offer 10 powerful arguments against lumbering into this untested and unprecedented social experiment, as follows:

#1. The implications for children in a world of decaying families are profound. A recent article in the Weekly Standard described how the advent of legally sanctioned gay unions in Scandinavian countries has already destroyed the institution of marriage, where half of today's children are born out of wedlock.(4) It is predicted now, based on demographic trends in this country, that more than half of the babies born in the 1990s will spend at least part of their childhood in single-parent homes.(5) Social scientists have been surprisingly consistent in warning against this fractured family. If it continues, almost every child will have several "moms" and "dads," perhaps six or eight "grandparents," and dozens of half-siblings. It will be a world where little boys and girls are shuffled from pillar to post in an ever-changing pattern of living arrangement--where huge numbers of them will be raised in foster-care homes or living on the street (as millions do in other countries all over the world today). Imagine an environment where nothing is stable and where people think primarily about themselves and their own self-preservation.

#2 The introduction of legalized gay marriages will lead to inexorably to polygamy and other alternatives to one-man, one woman unions. In Utah, Polygamist Tom Green, who claims five wives, is citing Lawrence v. Texas as the legal authority for his appeal.(6) This past January, a Salt Lake City civil rights attorney filed a federal lawsuit on behalf of another couple wanting to engage in legal polygamy.(7) Their justification? Lawrence V. Texas. The ACLU of Utah has actually suggested that the state will "have to step up to prove that a polygamous relationship is detrimental to society" --as opposed to the polygamists having to prove that plural marriage is not harmful to the culture.(8) Do you see how the game is played? Despite 5,000 years of history, the burden now rests on you and me to prove that polygamy is unhealthy. The ACLU went on to ay that the nuclear family "may not be necessarily the best model."(9) Indeed, Justice Antonin Scalia warned of this likelihood in his statement for the minority in the Lawrence case.(10) It took less than six months for his prediction to become reality.

#5 From that point forward, courts will not be able to favor a traditional family involving one man and one woman over a homosexual couple in matters of adoption. Children will be placed in homes with parents representing only one sex on equal basis with those having a mom and a dad. The prospect of fatherless and motherless children will not be considered in the evaluation of eligibility. It will be the law.

#6 Foster-care parents will be required to undergo "sensitivity training" to rid themselves of bias in favor of traditional marriage, and will have to affirm homosexuality in children and teens.

#7 How about the impact on Social Security if there are millions of new dependents that will be entitled to survivor benefits? It will amount to billions of dollars on an already over-burdened system. And how about the cost to American businesses? Unproductive costs mean fewer jobs for those who need them. Are state and municipal governments to be required to raise taxes substantially to provide health insurance and other benefits to millions of new "spouses and other dependents"?

#8 Marriage among homosexuals will spread throughout the world, just as pornography did after the Nixon Commission declared obscene material "beneficial" to mankind.11 Almost instantly, the English-speaking countries liberalized their laws against smut. America continues to be the fountainhead of filth and immorality, and its influence is global. The point is that numerous leaders in other nations are watching to see how we will handle the issue of homosexuality and marriage. Only two countries in the world have authorized gay marriage to date--Netherlands and Belgium.12 Canada is leaning in that direction, as are numerous European countries. Dr. Darrell Reid, president of Focus on the Family Canada, told me two weeks ago that this country is carefully monitoring the United States to see where it is going. If we take this step off a cliff, the family on every continent will splinter at an accelerated rate. Conversely, our U.S. Supreme Court has made it clear that it looks to European and Canadian law in the interpretation of our Constitution.13 What an outrage! That should have been grounds for impeachment, but the Congress, as usual, remained passive and silent.

#9 Perhaps most importantly, the Gospel of Jesus Christ will be severely curtailed. The family has been God's primary vehicle for evangelism since the beginning. Its most important assignment has been the propagation of the human race and the handing down of faith to our children. MalachI 2:15 reads, referring to husbands and wives," Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are His. And why one? Because He was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth" (NIV). That responsibility to teach the next generation will never recover from the loss of committed, God-fearing families. The younger generation and those yet to come will be deprived of the Good News, as has already occurred in France, Germany and other European countries. Instead of providing for a father and mother, the advent of homosexual marriage will create millions of motherless children and fatherless kids. This is morally wrong, and is condemned in Scripture. Are we now going to join the Netherlands and Belgium to become the third country in the story of the world to "normalize" and legalize behavior that has been prohibited by God, Himself? Heaven help us if we do!

#10 The culture war will be over, and I fear, the world may soon become "as it was in the days of Noah" (Matthew24:37, NIV). This is the climactic moment in the battle to preserve the family, and future generations hang in the balance.

This apocalyptic and pessimistic view of the institution of the family and its future will sound alarmist to many, but I think it will prove accurate unless--unless--God's people awaken and begin an even greater vigil of prayer for our nation. That's why Shirley and I are urgently seeking the Lord's favor and asking Him to hear the petitions of His people and heal our land. As of this time, however, large segments of the church appear to be unaware of the danger; its leaders are surprisingly silent about our peril (although we are tremendously thankful for the efforts of those who have spoken out on this issue). The lawless abandon occurring recently in California, New Mexico, New York, Oregon, Washington and elsewhere should have shocked us out of our lethargy. So far, I'm alarmed to say, the concern of the American people have not translated into action.

This reticence on behalf of Christians is deeply troubling. Marriage is a sacrament designed by God that serves as a metaphor for the relationship between Christ and His Church. Tampering with His plan for the family is immoral and wrong. To violate the Lord's expressed will for humankind, especially in regard to behavior that He prohibited, is to court disaster.

"Tampering with His plan for the family is immoral and wrong." It is so obvious that James Dobson means himself here and not God. How does James Dobson know what God's plan for the family is? God's plan is for humans to love each other. To accept each other. To forgive each other. To leave judgment to Him. The people messed up so bad the first time that he had to send his son down to straighten it out. Don't you think his son would mention it once if it were true? Don't you think Jesus would have said the word "homosexuality" if his Father had a problem with it? Nowhere is it written that Jesus mentioned "homosexuality". Not once. What he did mention over, and over, and over, was to see beyond the caveman thinking and get "out of the box." What he did mention was to love your fellow man no matter what. "What you do to the least of you do to me........"

Here's the question of the hour: How can we stop the imperious courts and rogue local officials from overriding the will of the people, who continue to oppose homosexual marriage by a wide margin? There is only on answer. It is for congress and the state legislatures to pass a Federal Marriage Amendment to define this historic institution exclusively as being between one man and one woman. That is the passion of my heart at this stage of my life.

Seven times in the past few months, I have joined more than 50 pro-family leaders in Washington, D.C., imploring members of Congress to protect the family while there is still time. I'm told that there is a brief window, now that the President has expressed his strong support, when a Federal Marriage Amendment might be possible. Still, the opposition to its passage is formidable.

It is terribly difficult to pass a constitutional amendment under the best of circumstances. It requires a two-thirds majority of both houses of Congress and passage by three-forths of the state legislatures. That has only occurred 27 times in our 228 year history. It will certainly not be easily accomplished this time. As I write, 34 senators (seven Republicans and 27 Democrats) are reportedly planning to vote against the FMA.15 Nothing short of a national outcry by the citizens of this country will secure the necessary support. We heard that repeatedly last week when we were on Capitol Hill. This is a time of destiny for our great nation.

Despite the danger that confronts us, I am hopeful that the death of the family can be averted. Most Americans still believe in the Judeo-Christian system of values, and millions of them are people of faith who are calling on the Lord for a miracle on behalf of our nation. That is the source of our confidence at such a perilous time.

As we approach the National Day of Prayer (NDP) on May 6, I am beseeching our brothers and sisters to pray in the public square for the survival of the institutions of marriage and parenthood, and to rally for the restoration of our First Amendment rights that are being stripped away, inch by inch. The theme of this year's NDP is "Let Freedom Ring," taken from Leviticus 25:10, which reads, "proclaim liberty throughout the land to all its inhabitants" (NIV).

I will leave you with this familiar story told in 2 Chronicles 32. There we read about king Hezekiah who had served God "wholeheartedly" during his reign. However, he eventually faced a terrible crisis when Sennacherib, King of Assyria, invaded Judah with 185,000 well-armed and trained warriors. They wiped out the defenders of every city that lay in their path. Then they laid siege to Jerusalem and demanded that Hezekiah surrender or be totally destroyed.

These are the irreverent words shouted by Sennacherib to Hezekiah and his defenders who were standing on the wall: "Do you not know what I and my fathers have done to all the people of the other lands? Were the gods of those nations ever able to deliver their land from my hand? Who of althea gods of these nations that my fathers destroyed has been able to save his people from me? How then can your god deliver you from my hand? Now do not let Hezekiah deceive you and mislead you like this. Do not believe him, for no god of any nation or kingdom has been able to deliver his people from my hand or the hand of my Fathers. How much less will your god deliver you from my hand!" (2 Chronicles 32:13- 15, NIV). Hezekiah along with the prophet Isaiah did what you and I would have done under those distressing circumstances. They cried out to the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob for deliverance. Hezekiah also encouraged his countrymen with these inspired words: "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or discouraged because of the King Assyria and the vast army with him, for there is a greater power with us than with him. With him is only the arm of flesh, but with us is the Lord our God to help us and to fight our battles" (2 Chronicles 32:7-8a, NIV).And indeed, the Lord did intervene as a result of the prayers of His people, delivering them from the hands of their enemies. That story should be of great encouragement to every believer who faces overwhelming odds at a time of great distress.

To summarize, let me say that Focus on the Family will not waver during this time of national urgency. By working with the other pro-family organizations and thousands of committed churches throughout the nation, we will strive to defend the principles that matter most. In so doing, we will likely be attacked, misquoted, and maligned by the liberal media and by those whose views on marriage and sexuality are radically different from our own.

We would covet your prayers during this time of intense debate. No matter what the odds, we are determined to stay the course. And may our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, bless us as we do.

Will you join me in this closing prayer?

"Heavenly Father, our great and magnificent King, we ask You to intercede on behalf of the institution of marriage and plead with You to save the family from those who would destroy it. With them is only 'an arm of flesh,' but our appeal is to the God of the universe who has never lost a battle. We do not deserve your mercy, but we kneel humbly before You today and repent of our sin and disobedience. When the history of this era is written, let it be remembered as a time when righteousness was rediscovered and when the wickedness of this day would be transformed by a nationwide spiritual renewal that would sweep through the land. For this, we and future generations will be forever grateful."

Sincerely,

James C. Dobson, Founder and Chairman "Focus on the Family"

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And No one says Koo-Koo? This does not seem like the man is a little off in the head? He is on Karl Rove's speed dial? The only thing that makes any sense to me is that this man is not Koo-Koo. He is actually quite smart and has found a way to demonize innocent citizens for political/economic gain.

This letter was sent to Millions of homes.....

How does this not incite violence to innocent people? How can this be legal? Violent hate crimes against gay Americans have steadily risen since "Dubya" took office and I think this letter shows why.

Please rent the movie "BlindSpot". It is an interview with Adolf Hitler's secretary. The first 5 minutes made my jaw drop and say, "Oh my God" out loud. She talks about how people's consciences can be controlled when they think what they do is for a "bigger cause." Hitler would tell people that the Jews were "the cause of everyone's problems". That they needed to be exterminated. The guards knew what they did was wrong but controlled their conscience because it was for a "greater good." I wonder what Dobson would do if he could just "get rid" of the gays. When you watch the movie and listen to how Hitler's secretary describes how Hitler thought, it is really disturbing after reading this letter. Either he really believes all this nonsense or he is just using it to further his cause. I don't know which one is worse.

Google: James Dobson and Adolf Hitler.... 249,000 hits. Check it out. A quarter of a million people agree with me......

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So I will be called a "homosexual activist". Children resort to name calling when there isn't much else left. In the strict sense of the words I am. I am a homosexual. (If you must still live in the 70s. Do you still say "negroes" too?) And I am acting. I am acting to defend myself against a constant barrage of lies and defamation.

It used to be something to be proud of. To do something. To be an activist. Now, because of Karl Rove, the word leaves a bad taste in the mouth. Well, I am still proud of it. I am doing something. In this day and age of apathy and complacency that has to stand for something. I hope you all enjoy the site. It is a passion for me. I guess that is the best way I can remember those that fought for my freedom. They are the reason that this will ever get read.

No one can be that "anti" anything. There is always something to gain......